FIND PEACE

Have you spun out recently?
Has someone or something hit the play button on one or several of your old tapes (beliefs about yourself)? Did they turn the volume up & you found yourself yelling or shutting down, sucking it up, distracting yourself or throwing pity parties because that's been your go-to behavior for years? Did you crawl back in your cage or let the chains find their way back around your wrists?

I always have to take a moment to understand what happened ...

What triggered my tape player?
What tape was played?
Who put that tape in my tape player?
What is the truth about that tape?
What is a new tape I can play instead?

I have to remind myself that it is within my control to find peace in everything I do, in all that I am confronted with, in all that I "fail" in. I don't have to allow anyone to play anything that isn't good for me to listen to.
I have to ask myself if them pushing my buttons makes them feel better somehow? Is that how they get my attention? My compliance? My affection? Is that how they attempt to control me? Is that how they find their power? Are they looking for validation? Acceptance? Admiration? Control?

If I take a moment to understand where this person is coming from ... what is at the core of their ignorance? Are they feeling insecure? Powerless? Jealous? Hurt? Abandoned? Is this someone I can VULNERABLY share my withholds for (withhold - something I keep from someone; honesty, compassion, authenticity) and why I created them? Is this someone I have no energy for? Is this someone who has no desire to give or receive REAL?

I find that once I step out of the state of reaction - I can better see what is going on ... and then I can decide how to proceed in a way that allows me to stay true to who I really am.

It is within my control to FIND PEACE in everything I do, in all that I am confronted with, in all that I "fail" in.

LIVE FOR TRUTH, CREATE INTEGRITY, FIND PEACE.

Love you all - wins, losses & flat on your face fails,
~ Alli